Do you ever find yourself getting down in the dumps and you’re not sure how you got there? Perhaps you found yourself wishing and thinking if only you had a better job, house, car, family, and the list goes on and on. The truth is, we all goes through times of wishing that life was better, however, how does wishing create a life we only imagined having?
Instead of spending your time wishing that life’s current situations were better, try reframing your thoughts. A lot of the time our thoughts influence our day to day activity and how we respond to situations and people. Changing your thoughts will absolutely change your life. Let’s look at a few simple ways that you can retrain your mind to look for the good in life and stay positive at the same time.
Every time you find yourself thinking about something negative in your mind, question it. Ask yourself: is this really beneficial to my time? Try thinking of ways that you can switch around your thoughts to instead look at your current woes differently. For example, you can think, well, my current situation isn’t the greatest, but it wasn’t my fault how my co-worker treated me. I choose how I react to how I’m treated and I can create boundaries so it doesn’t happen again.
Make a list of the things you are thankful for. Instead of wishing for the things you don’t have, try being grateful for the things you do have. Give a call to your parents who might have not spoken to in a while. Bring home your child a treat or gift just because you love them. Take your spouse on a getaway weekend just to show them how much you appreciate and are thankful for them. The thoughtfulness and thankfulness that you show to others will not go unnoticed and soon enough you will find yourself more thankful than ever. Pretty soon you will wonder why you ever were wishing for more and more when you had it all along.
Learn to love yourself more. The journey to self discovery and self love may be never ending, but be gentle with yourself. Forgive yourself of past wrongs, and realize that you deserve to be happy. Stop beating yourself up over mistakes you cannot change, and be grateful at a new chance at life. Find a hobby that you adore and build up your confidence by doing what you love most, whether it be writing, running, getting that dream job you always imagined yourself getting, or making more time for your kids.
Positivity may seem like a simple word, but it can be taken lightly. Let’s set aside some time to make a list to be thankful, replace negative thoughts with positive ones, and learn to love you more. Pretty soon you will have a joy that you can’t contain and a positive nature that everyone will ask how you achieved.